𝗥𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗧𝗼𝗿𝗻𝗮𝗱𝗼
Ha recently my friend Michelle used the term, 'it's like raking leaves in a tornado' to describe how it feels trying to clean the house when toddlers are awake / around.
Now it's a term Tom & I use often to reframe ourselves when we're getting upset, overwhelmed, or frazzled as we try to do a task when our toddler Mæve is around.
"We're trying to rake leaves in a tornado." This is often enough to stop our feelings of frustration as we let out a laugh and take a pause on the situation.
Have you experienced the power of a Reframe?
All of us are prone to what are called 'distorted styles of thinking' or distorted thoughts. All of us are prone to viewing reality in ways that don't necessarily serve us.
Me viewing myself as a failure because I can't clean the kitchen, while my toddler is around making her general daily mess, doesn't SERVE me.
Nor is it the truth - am I really and truly a failure?
Reframes provide a new way of looking at a situation. A way that frees us up from old stories and negative mental chatter. A way that frees us from a poor view of our self. A way that actually ends up making us MORE productive and successful in the long run.
Sometimes we reframe the chaos as, "One day the house will be perfectly clean ALL the time, but also empty of our wonderful children." Or, "In 50 years from now we won't remember the messes we kept cleaning, we'll only remember the children."
Don't get me wrong, you have every right to also feel your feelings and process them. But sometimes a reframe can be a really powerful tool to move you forward.
Want more? We'll be doing an entire class on mindset and reframes in our new Clean Mind program! The link is in my bio to Join. Can't wait to help you reframe some situations that have been bugging you!